{"id":2436,"date":"2020-08-15T15:08:17","date_gmt":"2020-08-15T13:08:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.laquartacorda.it\/en\/?p=2436"},"modified":"2021-06-30T17:20:26","modified_gmt":"2021-06-30T15:20:26","slug":"consent-03-the-negotiation-vocabulary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.laquartacorda.it\/en\/consent-03-the-negotiation-vocabulary\/","title":{"rendered":"The negotiation vocabulary"},"content":{"rendered":"
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BDSM consent and negotiation guidelines<\/strong><\/h2>\n

by La quarta corda<\/strong><\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]\n

3 –\u00a0The negotiation vocabulary<\/strong><\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”2371″ img_size=”medium” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row full_width=”stretch_row” css=”.vc_custom_1594715935987{background-color: #f7f7f7 !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n
TABLE OF CONTENTS<\/strong><\/h5>\n
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  1. Introduction<\/a><\/li>\n
  2. A few definitions<\/a><\/li>\n
  3. The negotiation vocabulary<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Trust<\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Experience<\/a><\/li>\n
  6. When and how much to negotiate<\/a><\/li>\n
  7. Expressing our motivation and expectations<\/a><\/li>\n
  8. Presenting our desires<\/a><\/li>\n
  9. Presenting our limits<\/a><\/li>\n
  10. Safeword<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/td>\n
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  1. Informing about any physical problems<\/a><\/li>\n
  2. Informing about possible psychophysical, emotional and psychological problems<\/a><\/li>\n
  3. Aftercare<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Negotiating before the session<\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Negotiating during the session<\/a><\/li>\n
  6. Feedbacks<\/a><\/li>\n
  7. When the session is over<\/a><\/li>\n
  8. Consent<\/a><\/li>\n
  9. When consent breaks<\/a><\/li>\n
  10. Conclusions<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n

    \"\"THE NEGOTIATION VOCABULARY<\/strong><\/p>\n

    We all negotiate continuously throughout our lives to assert our needs and limits<\/strong>, to respect those of others and to find solutions between different positions.<\/p>\n

    So let us examine together some of the terms used in negotiating.<\/p>\n

    When two – or more – people have a divergence of interests or needs, a \u201cconflict\u201d<\/strong> is said to exist. This word does not have a negative meaning, but it represents an important moment in which we define ourselves and learn to relate to others. It is no coincidence that conflict has been compared to water: too much water destroys and drowns, too little dries and withers, but the right amount helps to grow.<\/p>\n

    Negotiation is the \u201cstrategy\u201d<\/strong> we employ to resolve the conflict and to seek a solution.<\/p>\n

    Different \u201ctypes of negotiation\u201d<\/strong> exist:<\/p>\n