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BDSM consent and negotiation guidelines<\/strong><\/h2>\n

by La quarta corda<\/strong><\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]\n

4 –\u00a0Trust<\/strong><\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”2371″ img_size=”medium” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row full_width=”stretch_row” css=”.vc_custom_1594715935987{background-color: #f7f7f7 !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n
TABLE OF CONTENTS<\/strong><\/h5>\n
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  1. Introduction<\/a><\/li>\n
  2. A few definitions<\/a><\/li>\n
  3. The negotiation vocabulary<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Trust<\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Experience<\/a><\/li>\n
  6. When and how much to negotiate<\/a><\/li>\n
  7. Expressing our motivation and expectations<\/a><\/li>\n
  8. Presenting our desires<\/a><\/li>\n
  9. Presenting our limits<\/a><\/li>\n
  10. Safeword<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/td>\n
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  1. Informing about any physical problems<\/a><\/li>\n
  2. Informing about possible psychophysical, emotional and psychological problems<\/a><\/li>\n
  3. Aftercare<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Negotiating before the session<\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Negotiating during the session<\/a><\/li>\n
  6. Feedbacks<\/a><\/li>\n
  7. When the session is over<\/a><\/li>\n
  8. Consent<\/a><\/li>\n
  9. When consent breaks<\/a><\/li>\n
  10. Conclusions<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n

    \"\"TRUST<\/strong><\/p>\n

    When I get talking about consent and negotiation in BDSM the first word that comes to mind is \u201ctrust\u201d<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

    Trust is a very important aspect, because when playing both as tops or bottoms, we do expose ourselves to the risk of an accident on a physical, emotional or consent level.<\/p>\n

    Throughout our lives, most of us have been reckless with people in whom we had placed our trust without thinking about the risks of what we were doing, perhaps with the luck that we didn\u2019t run into any problems.<\/p>\n

    So I asked myself what trust is, and how we could answer the question \u201cHow can I say I trust somebody?\u201d.<\/p>\n

    Trust is a feeling of security<\/strong> that we can feel for ourselves and for others.<\/p>\n

    In BDSM, trust enters several aspects of our play, among them<\/p>\n