17th December 2019 Nawame, Vlogs and posts 0

How to find a rope partner for bondage and shibari

A research made in Italy in 2008 and another more outdated one made in the USA states that nearly one couple out of ten carry out BDSM practices at least occasionally; furthermore, the American survey argues that the 11% of men and the 17% of women did try to do bondage in their lifetime.

Often a lot of people tell me that they find it difficult to find a partner to practice ropes with. On account of the researches data things aren’t so tragic! Of course, there we talk about alternative sexuality in general, but it’s certainly a good starting point, considering that these researches go back to years when BDSM wasn’t fashionable, when social networks didn’t exist and when Ms. Erika Leonard wasn’t filthy rich yet.

Going back to the researches, statistically if you pick up random ten among your “vanilla” friends, at least one of them could be interested. Have you ever thought about it? Maybe you like ropes and that person goes mad for needle play, maybe for you shibari is a reason for living whereas for the other is just a thing to try once in a while, but at least you’ve stepped forward in the right direction, you’ve triggered a virtuous circle which could lead you to practice, to have new encounters and also to stimulate the curiosity of other people. My personal example: among the people with whom I took the first steps into bondage I could mention fellow musicians, people met at a dinner table, partner of friends of mine, long-time friends, girls met in a photography course, etc.

Sometimes the problem is in the one who is searching!

Do you take part in thematic groups on Facebook or Fetlife? Do you know the kinky scene of your city or region? Do you share photos of your progresses? Or have you got a fake profile with an inadmissible name with which you stalk any user on Facebook with cut and pasted messages, do you pretend to have experiences you don’t have, do you do everything in secret from your partner and do you never show your face in public events?

Believe me: it’s all about telling the truth in a serene, polite and respectful and not mysterious, guilty or anxious way. After all, you are suggesting to practice a bit of bondage, not to rob a bank, evade taxes or start drugs trafficking. A basic course or some practice can become a nice experience to share or a day passed together doing something new.

What you get will be the result of what you’ve said and how you’ve suggested it.

So it’s time to roll up one’s sleeves!

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